What happens in John Gottman’s lab?
couples videotaped and their interactions are analyzed according to SPAFF (for specific affect — i.e., disgust, contempt, anger, whining, defensiveness, neutral, sadness, etc.);
with one hour of analysis, Gottman can predict with 95% accuracy whether that couple will still be married 15 years later
ability of our unconscious to find patterns in situations and behavior based on very narrow slices of experience
distinctive signature that arises naturally and automatically
ex. morse code message or relationship between two people
what are Gottman’s 4 horsemen?
defensiveness, stonewalling, criticism, contempt
what is the single most important sign that a marriage is in trouble?
What does Samuel Gosling do in your bedroom?
Raters given 15 minutes to answer very basic questions about the occupant of the room;
strangers with clipboards best friends on conscientiousness, emotional stability, and openness to new experience